The first day of the Self Publishing Success Summit – the two interviews I got to listen to were “How to Punch Worry In the Face When Writing Your First book,” with Mitch Matthews, and “Using Belief, Confidence, Even Hypnosis to Get You Over the Hump and Write Your First Book,” with Marisa Peer. I found both sessions to be very interesting – in this blog post I’ll share some of the important things I learned.
How to Punch Worry In the Face
This one was more for people who are writing their first book, but I still got a lot of useful information out of it. Mitch Matthews started by talking about some of the worries that come up when people are writing their first book – these include things like:
- Is it going to be worth it?
- Am I going to lose money writing the book?
He also talked about how sometimes worry can be good for us, such as when we’re faced with immediate danger and our body goes into the “fight or flight” response – however sometimes worry can become chronic, and that’s when it’s not good for us. In addition, worry can also make us see less, both visually and metaphorically – it narrows our field of vision, and it also closes our mind to other options.
The next thing he talked about was the steps to get rid of worry. These steps are:
- Acknowledge it – Take an inventory of the things you’re worried about, go through and address the ones you can and figure out which ones are out of your control.
- Replace it – ask a question that overpowers that worry. For example if you’re worried about someone not liking your work, think about who might need this message. Also think about what success is going to look like for you at different points in your journey, and think about the things you can control.
- Do something intentionally – For example, pick a time to write. One point that Mitch made is that if you write for 15 minutes every day for a year, that’s 62 hours you’ve spent writing. Other things you can do when you’re taking your intentional step include grabbing a book and skimming it for 15 minutes, and listening to podcast interviews with your favorite author.
Other strategies he talked about that were important were recognizing that there’s a difference between worrying and being tempted to worry – when you’re worried you can’t do anything, but when you’re tempted to worry, that’s your body telling you that there are certain things you need to acknowledge and catch it before it becomes full-scale worry. Another point that he made was to surround yourself with people that will encourage you – people that criticize you may be trying to protect you, but they also may be struggling with who they are. When you’re writing a book you need to surround yourself with people who will be supportive, and also offer to help people. His final parting tip was to take what’s worrying you, acknowledge it, and that may be what you need to write about. If you want to find out more about him you can check out his website, mitchmatthews.com.
Using Belief, Confidence, Even Hypnosis to Help You Get Over the Hump & Write Your First Book
This session was a little shorter, and some of the information Marisa Peer shared I didn’t fully agree with. But here are some of the things she mentioned:
- The biggest mistake people make when they start to write is they keep editing it – I agree with her 100%, this is totally me – I’ve been known to edit even while I’m writing something. Now what I try to do is wait until I’ve finished writing at least a portion of it before I go back and edit.
- You have to have faith in your abilities – Totally agree with this point.
- Don’t get caught up in the planning, just start – I do not agree with this point, I am a planner, I like to plan out what I’m going to talk about in each chapter before I start writing. She does say later on that if you are a planner, that’s okay, but when you write you have to write what people want to read, which I can understand, but what I have a hard time on is finding out what people want to read about, at least within the topics I like to write about.
- Your potential expands as you move towards it – once you brain moves into another dimension it never goes back.
- Once you open up the creative part of you and write, you have no idea what’s going to come out of you.
- If you don’t have faith in your writing, just fake it until you make it – keep telling yourself “I am a wonderful writer” and visualize people reading your book.
- This was a great quote that she shared: Belief without talent will get you farther than talent without belief, but you if you have both you’re unstoppable.
- Say whatever you want your audience to hear.
- Don’t read other people’s books on the same subject until you finished your book, because you could unconsciously start copying them – I can understand this, but for me it’s hard not to read other books on the same subject, because I want to get an idea of what’s been written first.
- Be yourself when writing a book – definitely agree with this one, it’s important that your authentic voice comes out when you’re writing a book.
- Reply to everyone who leaves a great review – This was a great piece of advice, and something I haven’t been doing. I did go back and reply to a few reviews that were left on my first book after this webinar…now I just have to get some more reviews on that one, as well as on my second book. Hopefully I get some ideas on how to do that at the marketing webinars.
- Her final tip was to take a leap of faith, and I think that’s a very important tip for any new endeavor, especially writing a book.
Those were two very informative sessions – there were two more sessions at night, unfortunately I didn’t make those but I am going to try to catch the replays when I can. I look forward to sharing more of the things I learn at the Self-Publishing Success Summit. If you attended the other two sessions, I’d love to hear what you thought of them.